Welcome to the New England Dungeon Society


The New England Dungeon Society is a pansexual educational, support and social group.

We conduct regular BDSM seminars, workshops and demonstrations, social events for members and their escorted guests, as well as many and varied special events.

The New England Dungeon Society has been providing a comfortable environment for people to explore bondage, dominance & submission, and their kinkier side since 1993. We are a volunteer organization that depends upon its membership. Please check out the Get Involved page to see how you can help us grow and thrive.

Keep up to date with NEDS on Twitter or on Fetlife at New England Dungeon Society

This website contains no pornography, nudity, nor graphic descriptions of sex, but it does contain material pertaining to sex and alternative sexual lifestyles.

If you are under 18 years of age, or if you feel you would be offended by these contents, please do not view any further and EXIT THIS SITE!


NEDS Service/Silent Auction 4 May 2019

It’s that time of the year!! Time for the NEDS Auction!!!!

Have you ever had a fantasy of being won by the highest bidder? Are you a submissive who has wanted to belong to someone for an evening after being auctioned off the block? Are you a Top that has an amazing skill that you love to exhibit on a bottom? Want to practice this in an open and safe environment with like minded individuals? Now is your chance! NEDS is hosting a Service and Silent Auction as a fundraiser to raise money for the charities chosen AND gives you a chance to get your kink on while giving back to the community.
That’s a win win for everyone!

If you’re interested in going up for auction it doesn’t matter how you identify, it’s open to anyone who wishes to go up! If bidding for someone’s time for a scene doesn’t interest you, how about bidding on a handmade crafted kinky item,sexy toy or a piece of art? The community has generously donated items in the past and we will be posting the businesses who have donated very soon!

Register HERE

If you want to put yourself up for bid sign up here

100% of the proceeds will be\ split evenly between 3 charities

NEDS is proud to present Thista – The Rituals of Kink – 12 April 2019

Rituals of Kink

What is ritual, and what is its purpose? How can we use ritual to enhance our experience of kink? From fetish outfits, to setup and cleanup routines, to complex D/s protocol, kink is full of ritual language. Let’s look at rituals both sacred and secular, and explore how actions can speak louder than words.


Thista Minai is an author, priestess, ordeal facilitator, and gleeful sadist. Benefiting from a professional background in education, Thista teaches classes on a wide variety of topics, including sacred sexuality, the ordeal path, catharsis, impact, and needle play. With more than fifteen years of experience in designing and conducting rituals, Thista travels the country championing the value of spirituality and empowerment in kink and BDSM.

Fetlife profile https://fetlife.com/users/784208

Website: https://thistaminai.com/

NE-Ds/Smak Holiday Party

Date and Time: December 7th -9 P.M. – 1:30 A.M.

Location: Private Club in Providence, Rhode Island

Cost: $35/SMAK or NEDS members, $45 Non-members

Dress Code: Vanilla outside, Festive Fetish inside

Santa has asked his kinkiest elves from S.M.A.K and N.E.D.S. to join forces and deck the dungeon for a gala holiday party. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been naughty or nice, this is the event to jingle, mingle and beat Mary! We collectively invite everyone to join us – members, dual members and non-members – for an elfin’ great time. There will be food, fun, reindeer games and of course the ever popular Yank Me Swap. This is not mandatory but if you want to take part we ask that you bring a wrapped gift worth $25.00 for it. The holiday season is the time to gather ’round a huge Yule log with your kinky family and friends so join us for what promises to be an extravaganza that won’t be soon forgotten.Of course Santa will make a visit for all the good or bad girls and boys to sit on his lap……..smiles Memberships and renewals will be available at the door. This event will allow alcohol if you want a drink, you will be given a wrist band at the entrance . Just 2 are allowed for the evening. It is also a BYOB the club will hold your bottle behind the bar for the evening. There are lockers for changing but you must bring your own lock. The event organizers are not responsible for missing or stolen property: please do not leave valuables in your car. Entry fees paid for this event are non-refundable and non-transferable. Please click on the link below to get your ticket for this event.   https://ssl.ne-ds.org/events/1337730940

NEDS Halloween Spooktacular 19 October 2018

This will be a costume party with prizes for different categories. So, dress to impress in your strangest, funniest, or kinkiest outfit. Or just come as you are.

You never know what may win a prize.

There are lockers for changing, bring your own lock. NEDS is not responsible for missing or stolen property, please do not leave valuables in your car.

As always this is an alcohol-free event, but the bar will be open to serve soft drinks. Please remember to tip the bartender.

Entry fees paid for NEDS events are non-refundable and non- transferable.
Ticket sales are open to all and sales will close the Tuesday before the event at midnight.

NEDS Presents: Pressure points and micro torture with AdelineKindred and RiverMei – 12 October 2018

Would you like to cause intense pain with a single finger? Interested in watching someone squirm with uncomfortable anticipation? Looking for the next thing to make them twitch with just the stroke of a knuckle?

Come learn some of the most unexpectedly sinister ways to poke, prod, and torture various parts of the body using your fingers, knuckles, nails and a variety of small toys. Just when they thought it was safe because you put the whip down…


River and Adeline are a polyamorous, pansexual, switchy duo with a passion for education, preparation, and all sorts of deviant delights ranging from fire to medical play to impact and more. Adeline is a gender fluid Eagle scout and self-proclaimed princess of dad jokes who has been teaching kink since college. River is a medical person turned techie who adores constantly iterating on classes to continuously find more effective ways to communicate and who excels at surviving Adeline’s puns. River has been teaching emergency response classes since 2012 and teaching kink classes with Adeline for the last 3 years. Classes with River and Adeline are an opportunity to learn new skills, delve into new ideas, and enjoy yourself while doing so.

NCSF’s Consent for Groups Discussion 14 September 2018

NOTE: There will be time to discuss issues that NCSF is working on and the Programs they offer. This is an opportunity to understand the issues that the BDSM/Kink community are facing. “We will discuss the current state of the law in Massachusetts and nationally, as well as NCSF efforts to change it.”

Title: NCSF’s Consent for Groups Discussion

Presenter: Jim Dunyak https://fetlife.com/users/8075582

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) Consent Counts program is designed to assist our communities in promoting a culture of consent through education and providing resources on how to deal with nonconsensual incidents. Join us for this interactive and informative discussion geared for people who…

• host a munch or rope group
• produce cons or other events
• volunteer at cons or other events
• host play parties in your home or elsewhere
• hold a leadership position in a kink organization

What We’ll Cover:

• Liability concerns for groups and events from criminal and civil perspectives
• Trauma, including
• various ways people react (some might surprise you)
• the “do’s and don’ts” of what to say and
• the best ways to be supportive.
• Dealing with consent incidents – from developing a consent policy to handling sanctions when it’s violated.

Who Should Attend:

Everyone, actually. Certainly, anyone who falls into the categories listed above will benefit from the information in this discussion. However, understanding these components is of equal value when evaluating personal risk tolerance as an attendee.

*NCSF does not provide legal advice

NEDS and NEHG Present Wiseguy!! 10 August 2018

Your Hypotic Self

Getting started as a hypnotist can be daunting. There are so many things to learn: inductions, deepeners, suggestion techniques, safety tips, negotiation skills, etc. Where do you start? In this class, Wiseguy helps to demystify the process of developing your hypnotic skills and style. Learn the things you need to know right away so you can build your confidence and have fun while you continue to add skills and techniques to your hypnotic tool kit.


The unofficial dean of erotic hypnosis education, Mark Wiseman (Wiseguy) brings his brand of humor and fun into classes that teach anyone how to use erotic hypnosis in a way that is safe, ethical, responsible, and hot. He is also the author of the books Mind Play: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis and The Mind Play Study Guide, the first hypnosis books written expressly for the kink community. In mundane life Wiseguy is a professional hypnotist, a teacher of professional hypnotists, and an avid woodworker.

NEDS Summer Luau Play Party 24 August 2018

Play Party time!!

NEDS’ Summer play party is now open for registration.
Envision yourself in islands, cool breezes, sun, sand, ok maybe no sand.

Wear your favorite beach wear, or nothing at all. (once you are inside of course)



We have set up a demo/class with Lady_Ayesha:

Anatomy for Impact Play


How to hit every surface of the body without ending up in the ER

In this class we will cover

Some basic human anatomy

The inflammatory process

How various body parts respond to impact

What can be hit and what should be avoided

Judging the best way to strike any particular area

Brief demonstration with various implements and toys

Come prepared to engage in the discussion and bring your questions!

Class is intended for tops, bottoms, and switches of all skill levels, genders and orientations.

Lady Ayesha has been active in the community for over 4 years. She has taught on the Art of Negotiation. She describes her style of play as connective impact and ranges from heavily sadistic to mindful introductory impact. Impact should be fun for both parties, while keep an eye on safety, boundaries and limits. You can read more of her writings on topics related to impact play and before and after care on Fetlife.

NEDS Presents – Writing Erotica: Imagining Dominance/submission with Mistress Sky, 13 July 2018

A recent poll of Americans who have seen the movie, 50 Shades of Grey, revealed that 70%, male and female, fantasize about being dominated. I’ll present my own findings in power exchange erotica. I’m always looking for fiction that has excellent relationship dynamics versus poorly presented or unhealthy ways of relating. Bring a pen and pad and we’ll write a brief scene together. Bring a favorite scene from a novel and we’ll analyze it for its healthy (or not so great) D/s (M/s) relationship bones.


Mistress Sky is a lifestyle Domme. In her professional life, she is a relationship coach and an alternative lifestyle counselor. She is the author of many articles and essays plus Unequal Partnership: a dating guide for loving non-egalitarian relationships. Sky has penned many stories, poems, one novella, and a novel. Visit her on Facebook and LinkedIn (gates counseling), at her Medium blog (Aisha-Sky Gates), and at her websites,



Statement of Purpose

Fetlife profile: https://fetlife.com/users/688757

NEDS Presents SaraScalper – Coming Out: What? Who? Why? Where? How? – 11 May 2018

Coming Out: What? Who? Why? Where? How?: Everyone knows that “coming out” regarding anything (being LGBTQ+, kinky, non-monogamous, etc.) is difficult and potentially life-changing, but not everyone is aware of the potential consequences of
not “coming out.”

Lifestyle sadist/dominant, kink educator, and mental health professional Sara Scalper will use this class to talk about what “coming out” means, the repercussions of not coming out, and the stresses related to coming out, and will additionally offer tips for coming out and techniques for self-care during the coming out process.

They will also talk about coming out regarding consent violations, as these occur frequently in our community and folks often face similar stresses when choosing whether or not to reveal what has happened to them, as well as similar repercussions when they do not reveal them.

Whether you’re so out of the closet that the door’s locked behind you or you’re in the back of it behind all of the coats, come join us as we discuss something that affects the lives of everyone in the kink community.

My bio:

Sara Scalper is a queer, nonmonogamous non-binary femme and ethical sadist who has been topping since 2002, has been involved in the kink community since 2004, and has been a part of the Boston community since 2010. They self-identify as 75% intersexed being, 20% Amazonian woman, and 5% primal male (these identities are constantly in flux), but are always 100% ethical sadist.

Primarily a physical sadist and impact top, they also get great pleasure from being a ”scene aunt” to newer folks in the scene, teaching them how to top safely (via classes or one-on-one instruction) and/or how to negotiate so they have safe, satisfying scenes.

Sara has taught for NELA at several Fleas and at/for NH Kinky Con, Bound in Boston, Boston Invasions at the Society, Trans Spectrum Kinksters, Paingasms at the Society, MOB, Boston TNG, BKC, and Wicked Women.

They are honored to be teaching at their first NEDS event! They can often be found with their lovely wife and collared submissive, AJ (who often helps them present their classes!), and their extended ”kinky family,” and love to talk ethical nonmonogamy as much as they do BDSM.