The Dichotomy of M/s and Love – A Panel Discussion

CLASS DESCRIPTION: The Dichotomy of M/s and Love

At its core, an M/s relationship is a structured, unequal relationship. It may involve kink, play, service, or a myriad of other elements. But can love exist within an M/s relationship and if so, how? Can love support and even enhance any of these elements? Bring your questions and come hear the stories, trials, and triumphs of three M/s couples: each have love and M/s in their relationships and each came to M/s and love via different paths.


Raven and Joshua

Raven Kaldera is a queer FTM transgendered intersexual shaman. He is the author/editor of 40 books, including “Dark Moon Rising: Pagan BDSM and the Ordeal Path”, and “Power Circuits: Polyamory In A Power Dynamic”. He and his slaveboy Joshua have been teaching and presenting workshops regularly for many years to the BDSM, Neo-Pagan, Sex/Spirituality, transgender, and other communities. Raven is the 2014 Northeast Master titleholder, and He lives with his big poly family on a homestead in Massachusetts. ’Tis an ill wind that blows no minds.

Joshua Tenpenny has been in service to Raven Kaldera since 2002. He is Raven’s devoted assistant, partner, and slave for life. Josh is also a massage therapist, Shiatsu practitioner, and yoga teacher. The 2014 Northeast Slave titleholder, he and his master Raven Kaldera were chosen as the MAsT 2011 Presenters of the Year, and given the 2018 Jack McGeorge Excellence in Education award. He is the author of “Real Service” and the creator of the Service Notebook. He finds spiritual fulfillment through any kind of worthy service.

Stephan and SweetWisteria:

Stephan has been exploring M/s, Power, kink and poly for more then 20 years. He has a passion for education, sharing his and others experiences within the journey. In 2016, with his family established the Boston Annex of the Carter Johnson Leather Library. Recently, with his slave, he has worked to establish a leather family in New England and try to bring back some roots of M/s and leather to his local community.

SweetWisteria has been a part of the BDSM since 2009. She is a service oriented individual with service being a common theme throughout her personal and professional paths. Before finding her way to the lifestyle, she served as both a Peace Corps and AmeriCorps volunteer, experiences which helped her travel to almost 40 countries and 40 of the states in the US.

As a slave to her Master, she enjoys her role as Captain at the regular dinner parties she and they host in their home. She has been caught learning the napkin folds used by many of the restaurants she explores to put to her own use. She also has an affinity for glitter and becomes giddy when she sparkles.

SweetWisteria is active in her local community, regularly attending MAsT Mass. meetings and has had the amazing opportunity to teach at NELA’s Fetish Fair Flea Market, NEDS, MAsT Providence, Albany Power Exchange, Kinky Con, and Dungeons and Geekdoms. She and her Master have been fortunate to travel and have also had the honor of presenting at NorthWest Leather Celebration, M/s Gathering, the Submissive’s Un-Conference, Camp Crucible, and the Power Exchange Summit.

Fathom_MasterJim and tealover_dee:

Master Jim and dee are a monogamous M/s couple who married out of college and have been exploring their kink ever since. In their long journey together, they discovered and entered the lifestyle ~10 yrs ago. They attended their first community event after another 5 yrs, and became increasingly engaged in the community, attending events and finding their chosen family. Currently they are active members in MAsT MASS where Master Jim serves as Assistant Director. With one son in college and the other graduated and living on his own, they are making the bittersweet empty nest phase sweeter by diving deeper into their M/s, expanding the boundaries of their dynamic, and growing to be ever more their fully authentic selves. In their spare time Master Jim can be found playing Pinball and making espressos, as dee, an avid reader, crochets and sips tea.