Statement from the NEDS Board

Good day,

NEDS as an organization, supports the Black Lives Matter movement.

The NEDS board wanted to put together a few things in a statement, first and foremost.  We would like to apologize for not issuing a statement earlier, we should have spoken up as soon the terrible tragedy with George Floyd and the countless other people of color at the hands of police and systemic racism which has been rampant in our country for far too long.  We understand that by not making a statement, by staying silent we have been complacent.  This behavior needs to change and we need to be better.  We do not want to make excuses in this, only a promise to be better in the future.

As part of this, we are rededicating to outreach to POC and LGBTQ+ groups and organizations to see what help we can provide. We are committed to making our space and our organization more accepting and inclusive.  This is a struggle for many organizations and we need to be better.

Next, happy Pride!  This month is the celebration of pride and this year is perhaps more important than prior years as our country and the world is going through a global pandemic and human rights crisis of systemic racism.  We want to remember what happened at Stonewall ( and remember that violence against Gay and Trans people are still disproportionately high.

The board also recognizes, except for announcing cancelling of classes, we have been silent for too long during this pandemic.  At this time we do not believe it is safe or responsible to pull together large groups of people for a class in a physical setting.  When we went into this, many experts said a few weeks to a month of social distancing, so we believed one or maybe two months of cancelled classes.  Obviously, this information was incorrect.  As such we are going to start exploring online classes hosted by NEDS to bring in discussions from presenters who have offered their services.  Please look for upcoming announcements.

NEDS March Madness! Meeting and a Munch! 13 March 2020

This March, instead of a class, we’re holding a munch! … after our annual business meeting,

After the meeting, we’ll descend upon the hotel’s bar/restaurant for the munch.

If you can’t make it, would you please, PLEASE visit here to fill out your proxy form? It’s quick, it makes the board’s life easier, and will keep us from having to bug you at every meeting, in case we don’t get a quorum.

What are we voting on? We need to fill one of our Service Board positions. The term is two years. The esteemed Stephan (aka Akuda) is the incumbent, and the nominating committee has invited him to run for another term, in honor of his outstanding service.

Railen, the nominating committee chair, would like to thank MsD4u2srv, MistressThorne, Doc850, and BobthePlumber, for their participation.

Again, if you are a NEDS member in good standing, and are unable to attend the annual meeting in person, please take just a moment to submit a proxy ballot to record your vote!

*****Please note this event will be held at Embassy Suites, 550 Winter St, Waltham, MA 

NEDS Halloween Extravaganza 18 October 2019

This will be a costume party with prizes for different categories. So, dress to impress in your strangest, funniest, or kinkiest outfit. Or just come as you are.
You never know what may win a prize.
There are lockers for changing, bring your own lock. NEDS is not responsible for missing or stolen property, please do not leave valuables in your car.
As always this is an alcohol-free event, but the bar will be open to serve soft drinks. Please remember to tip the bartender.
Entry fees paid for NEDS events are non-refundable and non- transferable. Ticket sales are open to all and sales will close the Tuesday before the event at midnight.

NEDS annual Rope 101- NEW LOCATION

!!!!!!Due to circumstances beyond our control the class has been moved to:
Embassy Suites
550 Winter St
Waltham, MA
Hastings Room (Be sure to check signs in the lobby for any last minute Changes!!!!!!!

This is intended to be a beginner/entry level class where kinky folks can come and learn, tie, ask questions, tie, and do hands on ties… However, if people want to learn more advanced/details ties there will be time later in the night…we have to room all night.

This is open to all levels so feel free to come and learn, help out etc. This is kinky rope folks helping other kinky rope folks. We are all “tied” in this together.

Have you watched a sexy rope scene and want to find out more? Maybe you’ve learned some basics but would like to know more details.

This Rope 101 class is primarily aimed at beginners but will also have lots of great information for the intermediate; such as tying with intent, communication and using rope to connect with your partner.

The class will be structured so that we go back and forth between instruction and practice giving lots of opportunities to try what you learn.

We will go over essentials of rope bondage including:

• Where and how to start
• Why tie?
• Different types of rope
• What to expect as a top and a as a bottom
• Safety; differentiating between good pain and bad pain
• Communication and setting expectations
• Tying with intention and creating your own style

We will have instruction followed by practice of the basic Single Column and Double Column ties.

These can be used to for other ties like
Basic chest harnesses
Chicken wing
Tying to bed frame or chair
Freestyle rope


CaptainKen :

with help from mindfullove:

The Dichotomy of M/s and Love – A Panel Discussion

CLASS DESCRIPTION: The Dichotomy of M/s and Love

At its core, an M/s relationship is a structured, unequal relationship. It may involve kink, play, service, or a myriad of other elements. But can love exist within an M/s relationship and if so, how? Can love support and even enhance any of these elements? Bring your questions and come hear the stories, trials, and triumphs of three M/s couples: each have love and M/s in their relationships and each came to M/s and love via different paths.


Raven and Joshua

Raven Kaldera is a queer FTM transgendered intersexual shaman. He is the author/editor of 40 books, including “Dark Moon Rising: Pagan BDSM and the Ordeal Path”, and “Power Circuits: Polyamory In A Power Dynamic”. He and his slaveboy Joshua have been teaching and presenting workshops regularly for many years to the BDSM, Neo-Pagan, Sex/Spirituality, transgender, and other communities. Raven is the 2014 Northeast Master titleholder, and He lives with his big poly family on a homestead in Massachusetts. ’Tis an ill wind that blows no minds.

Joshua Tenpenny has been in service to Raven Kaldera since 2002. He is Raven’s devoted assistant, partner, and slave for life. Josh is also a massage therapist, Shiatsu practitioner, and yoga teacher. The 2014 Northeast Slave titleholder, he and his master Raven Kaldera were chosen as the MAsT 2011 Presenters of the Year, and given the 2018 Jack McGeorge Excellence in Education award. He is the author of “Real Service” and the creator of the Service Notebook. He finds spiritual fulfillment through any kind of worthy service.

Stephan and SweetWisteria:

Stephan has been exploring M/s, Power, kink and poly for more then 20 years. He has a passion for education, sharing his and others experiences within the journey. In 2016, with his family established the Boston Annex of the Carter Johnson Leather Library. Recently, with his slave, he has worked to establish a leather family in New England and try to bring back some roots of M/s and leather to his local community.

SweetWisteria has been a part of the BDSM since 2009. She is a service oriented individual with service being a common theme throughout her personal and professional paths. Before finding her way to the lifestyle, she served as both a Peace Corps and AmeriCorps volunteer, experiences which helped her travel to almost 40 countries and 40 of the states in the US.

As a slave to her Master, she enjoys her role as Captain at the regular dinner parties she and they host in their home. She has been caught learning the napkin folds used by many of the restaurants she explores to put to her own use. She also has an affinity for glitter and becomes giddy when she sparkles.

SweetWisteria is active in her local community, regularly attending MAsT Mass. meetings and has had the amazing opportunity to teach at NELA’s Fetish Fair Flea Market, NEDS, MAsT Providence, Albany Power Exchange, Kinky Con, and Dungeons and Geekdoms. She and her Master have been fortunate to travel and have also had the honor of presenting at NorthWest Leather Celebration, M/s Gathering, the Submissive’s Un-Conference, Camp Crucible, and the Power Exchange Summit.

Fathom_MasterJim and tealover_dee:

Master Jim and dee are a monogamous M/s couple who married out of college and have been exploring their kink ever since. In their long journey together, they discovered and entered the lifestyle ~10 yrs ago. They attended their first community event after another 5 yrs, and became increasingly engaged in the community, attending events and finding their chosen family. Currently they are active members in MAsT MASS where Master Jim serves as Assistant Director. With one son in college and the other graduated and living on his own, they are making the bittersweet empty nest phase sweeter by diving deeper into their M/s, expanding the boundaries of their dynamic, and growing to be ever more their fully authentic selves. In their spare time Master Jim can be found playing Pinball and making espressos, as dee, an avid reader, crochets and sips tea.

NEDS is proud to present Match Stick and sepiessa – Position Play and Training – October 11, 2019

Special offer for non-members. NEDS will include a one year membership when you make your non-member payment for this class. There will be membership forms on the table as you enter the room. This is valid for this class only..

Interested in position play and position training? Want to learn to pose in a way that pleases your dominant? Want to learn to arrange your submissive to your liking?

Come to this event! There will be a short introduction and overview and then you will get the opportunity to try positions out and (if negotiated) work on giving position requests and feedback to someone.

This is meant to be less demonstration and more exploration.

Position suggestions will be available for a wide variety of mobility.

Please bring movement friendly clothes and possibly a yoga mat.

Presented by Match Stick and sepiessa.

Match Stick Bio: Match Stick has been around the Boston BDSM Scene for far too many years to admit. He’s a huge fan of position training and very excited share his interest and find others who are also into it.

sepiessa: sepiessa is a skilled bodyworker with over 10 years of training and experience in Swedish and Deep Tissue massage as well as Thai Massage. She leads Naked Yoga at various local cons and loves to share her knowledge with her kinky peers. She has a flourishing private massage and yoga practice in Massachusetts.

NEDS is proud to present Skyla – Non-Monogamy 101 Sept 13

Non-Monogamy 101 – NEDS September 2019 Our culture makes space for one relationship structure – monogamy. As kinksters, we know that there are many different approaches to relationships. This workshop will cover different types of non-monogamy, and specifically focus on polyamory. Topics covered will include: talking to your partner(s) about your needs & desires, health and safety protocols, logistics, being out vs. not being out to family, friends, and co-workers.
Although this workshop is directed at foundational level topics, people of all experiences are welcomed and encouraged to attend – including monogamous folks. Bio: Skyla is your friendly neighborhood mermaid. She has been swimming around these waters since 2012 where she got her start through attending a NEDS class! Skyla went on to become a NEDS board member working as secretary and event coordinator. Skyla continued her passion for community volunteering through working behind the scenes at several large scale kink conventions including: Fusion, Summer Camp, Winter Fire, and Bound in Boston. In 2018, Skyla teamed up Ozma_of_Oz to create new convention; Tethered Together. Tethered Together is a hotel takeover rope-centric convention that is accented with dance, circus, relationship, and kink workshops. The event runs in March each year in Rhode Island. Skyla can be found teaching on a variety topics including polyamory, cosplay, urethral sounding, and rope bondage. Skyla is happily married to a fellow kinkster in a polyamorous marriage that takes a “kitchen table” style approach to relationships. She loves iced coffee, dry humor, and dancing with her leviwand. Website:

NEDS is proud to present Wiseguy – Recreational hypnosis is memory play, and why not? – August 9th

Class description:

One of the most often asked-about things in recreational hypnosis is memory play, and why not? It’s hot, watching your partner do things without remembering doing them. Or suddenly being unable to remember your own name. In this advanced workshop, though, we’ll take memory play to some new extremes and show you some advanced techniques for when you’ve done taking away the number 4 and are ready to move up.


The unofficial dean of erotic hypnosis education, Mark Wiseman (Wiseguy) brings his brand of humor and fun into classes that teach anyone how to use erotic hypnosis in a way that is safe, ethical, responsible, and hot. He is also the author of the books Mind Play: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis and The Mind Play Study Guide, the first hypnosis books written expressly for the kink community. In mundane life Wiseguy is a professional hypnotist, a teacher of professional hypnotists, and an avid woodworker.

NEDS is proud to present Stephan and sweetwisteria – Practical Magic, Practical Communication – July 12, 2019

Class description: Practical Magic, Practical Communication

“We constantly hear that good communication skills are important. Improving them can strengthen relationships, increase productivity, and reduce conflict just to name a few benefits. But if communication skills are so valuable across the board, why do we invest so little in improving them? Maybe we’re just tired of hearing generic tips like “”become a better listener.”” In this class, Stephan and SweetWisteria will delve into communication techniques they’ve used to improve their relationship. Participants will leave with tangible next steps to improving their communication skills within their relationships.”


Stephan and sweetwisteria have been in an M/s dynamic for nearly 5 years exploring what power and authority exchange mean to them and how they can help teach others to explore power exchange. Together they enjoy educating on a myriad of subjects around the M/s dynamic, service, formal dining, etiquette, and many other subjects. They also live in a poly household with six adults, two cats and a dog, adding to the complexity of their M/s and service to both a person and a house.