Author: Rhotastic

Coming Out: What? Who? Why? Where? How?: Everyone knows that “coming out” regarding anything (being LGBTQ+, kinky, non-monogamous, etc.) is difficult and potentially life-changing, but not everyone is aware of the potential consequences of
not “coming out.”

Lifestyle sadist/dominant, kink educator, and mental health professional Sara Scalper will use this class to talk about what “coming out” means, the repercussions of not coming out, and the stresses related to coming out, and will additionally offer tips for coming out and techniques for self-care during the coming out process.

They will also talk about coming out regarding consent violations, as these occur frequently in our community and folks often face similar stresses when choosing whether or not to reveal what has happened to them, as well as similar repercussions when they do not reveal them.

Whether you’re so out of the closet that the door’s locked behind you or you’re in the back of it behind all of the coats, come join us as we discuss something that affects the lives of everyone in the kink community.

My bio:

Sara Scalper is a queer, nonmonogamous non-binary femme and ethical sadist who has been topping since 2002, has been involved in the kink community since 2004, and has been a part of the Boston community since 2010. They self-identify as 75% intersexed being, 20% Amazonian woman, and 5% primal male (these identities are constantly in flux), but are always 100% ethical sadist.

Primarily a physical sadist and impact top, they also get great pleasure from being a ”scene aunt” to newer folks in the scene, teaching them how to top safely (via classes or one-on-one instruction) and/or how to negotiate so they have safe, satisfying scenes.

Sara has taught for NELA at several Fleas and at/for NH Kinky Con, Bound in Boston, Boston Invasions at the Society, Trans Spectrum Kinksters, Paingasms at the Society, MOB, Boston TNG, BKC, and Wicked Women.

They are honored to be teaching at their first NEDS event! They can often be found with their lovely wife and collared submissive, AJ (who often helps them present their classes!), and their extended ”kinky family,” and love to talk ethical nonmonogamy as much as they do BDSM.

Have you ever had a fantasy of being won by the highest bidder? Are you a submissive who has wanted to belong to someone for an evening after being auctioned off the block? Are you a Top that has an amazing skill that you love to exhibit on a bottom? Want to practice this in an open and safe environment with like minded individuals? Now is your chance! NEDS is hosting a Service and Silent Auction as a fundraiser to raise money for the charities chosen AND gives you a chance to get your kink on while giving back to the community. That’s a win win for everyone! If you’re interested in going up for auction it doesn’t matter how you identify, it’s open to anyone who wishes to go up! If bidding for someone’s time for a scene doesn’t interest you, how about bidding on a handmade crafted kinky item, sexy toy or a piece of art? The community has generously donated items in the past and we will be posting the businesses who have donated very soon! Registration link: Registration for members opens March 1. Non Members March 9th. https://ssl.ne-ds.org/events/552664821 Link if you want to put yourself up for auction: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdiuZ9MLsM… 100% of the proceeds will be split evenly between 3 charities

 

******PLEASE NOTE CHANGE OF VENUE********

March’s Class and Meeting will be held at the Embassy Suites in Waltham, MA.

An open question forum with a Massachusetts Attorney on the intersects of BDSM and the law (this is purposely open ended as the intersects can range from Criminal to divorce and everything in between). While everything has the potential to intersect kink/bdsm with the law, the main areas that seem to come up are: What is consent? What affects someone’s ability to consent?, how does my being kinky affect me: in a divorce, with a paternity action, in a child support/custody matter?, with DCFS? With work? in court?

What do I tell me Doctor about my bruises (routine exams vs emergency)?; What should I tell the police if they want to talk to me about the bruises (or anything else)?, If I tell my doctor ALL about my lifestyle, can anyone else see that? What about my therapist? Can I be committed (psychiatric) for engaging in lifestyle activities? and any other questions you may have, I may not have the answers,to everything, but we can discuss it and have some fun in the process.

Attorney Adam Phipps has practiced in Massachusetts since 2011. Prior to becoming an Attorney Adam worked as a Registered Nurse for more than twenty years (emergency department, ICU, and management). He handles a general civil practice: (Civil rights, Discrimination, mental health litigation, police misconduct, Family law (Divorce, custody, restraining orders), Landlord-Tenant, medical-legal consulting as an expert Registered Nurse. He identifies as non-binary and is comfortable with any pronouns. He considers himself a progressive intellectualist with a love of politics, history and old movies

 

Second Verse, same as the first!!!

The new date for the NEDS Holiday party is Friday, January 19, 2018.

If you were confirmed for the original date, your registration will be carried over, so there is no need to register again.  If you were registered, but cannot make it January 19th, please contact [email protected], and we will issue you a refund.

If you couldn’t make it to the party before and you can now, all you need to do is register HERE!!

Members price is just $20!!

Guaranteed not to cause frost bite on your nose, toes and yes even those. You may even be able to open your package early

Last day for registration is Tuesday, January 16, 2018

There are lockers for changing, bring your own lock.

NEDS is not responsible for missing or stolen property, please do not leave valuables in your car. As always this is an alcohol-free event, but the bar will be open to serve soft drinks. Please remember to tip the bartender.

Newly registered entry fees paid for this event are non-refundable and non- transferable.

 

Apologies for the short notice. Choice Social had to close due to the storm and lack of heat.
Thus the NEDS Holiday Party has been cancelled.

We will send out another notice announcing a new date when it has be set.

Again our sincerest apologies. This was out of our control.

What does a KNIFE do for you?

Knives elicit many different responses. Many of those reactions excite me as a kinkster; fear, arousal, anticipation, excitement, anxiety, rapid heartbeats, giggling, even relaxation. This class will cover safety of and the risks of playing with knives, how to select a knife that works for you, caring for and proper cleaning of your knife(vies). Through demonstration there will be examples of techniques that can be used to elicit intended reactions.

Bio

MzBugz has been a very active member of the BDSM community for 4 years. She has gained a wealth of knowledge through personal life experiences, lifestyle education and practice…lots of practice. A female identified pansexual polyamorous Top heavy hedonistic switch. MzBugz carries with her a reputation for having an incredible shoe collection that she enjoys showing off in her kink travels spanning most of the New England area and beyond playing, learning and presenting.

No two blowjobs are alike, whether your guy is looking for low and slow or fast and furious, this session will give you the tools you need to deliver a Class A blow job every time. Some of the things we will talk about:

-Anatomy (his and yours)
-Negotiation (what’s the end goal? how does he like it? What are you comfortable with? Active or passive participation)
-Blowjobs as a BDSM tool
-Technique (lips, teeth, tongue, breath, hands, balls, deep/shallow, sloppy/dry and more)
-The Big Finish (foreplay or the main event? spit or swallow?)
-Aftercare

There will be a live female demo bottom (the fabulous sepiessa with a strap-on) for demonstration purposes. There will also be plenty of time for discussion.

Whether you are hesitant about your cocksucking skills or a pro looking for some new tricks and tips, please join us for an educational and thought provoking class that is sure to bring delight to both you and your partner.

This is NOT a Hands-On exercise! tenacioustoy DOES NOT need a demo bottom nor will she give “private lessons” or tutor in any way. Please do NOT solicit tenacioustoy in ANY WAY prior to, or after the event.
tenacioustoy has been an active kinkster for more than 30 years and loves to share her knowledge about play and navigating relationships in the kink and the vanilla worlds. As a submissive, providing knowledge-as-a-service is a huge kink that everyone can benefit from. tenacioustoy facilitates discussion based classes and has that certain knack for creating a comfortable atmosphere where people can open up, share and have fun.

Do to Choice Social’s closing due to snow and lack of heat; the NEDS Holiday Party has been cancelled.

A new date will be announced as soon as possible.

Again our apologies, this was out of our control

Watch Sassamon make a flogger from scratch. You will observe the steps taken to deliver a high quality leather flogger. The flogger will be for sale at the end of the workshop- proceeds to benefit NEDS. Sassamon will also talk about other impact toys that you can make at home out of some ordinary inexpensive materials. You will learn why they call that big box store “Dom Depot”. The workshop will cover a wide variety of topics from how to select your impact toys, which toys do what, how NOT to use impact toys, etc. Sassamon will also discuss scening with impact toys and how to make it a ‘connected’ scene and not simply a beating.

BIO: Sassamon is a Metrowest resident and self identified townie. He entered the kink scene only six years ago and quickly developed a liking for impact play. He was disappointed with the quality of the floggers available at the local sex shops. He did some research online and taught himself how to make a quality flogger. Shortly after the club debut of the first flogger he made, people started asking for him to make floggers for them. And soon Sassamon Leather was born. Mainly the focus is on using good materials and presenting a solid, quality impact toy. Sassamon is a proud member and supporter of NEDS. He has donated impact toys for each of the NEDS Auctions. He has offered himself as an impact top for each of the auctions and raised nearly $1000 for NEDS through his efforts. Sassamon has also donated floggers to help raise money for the Portsmouth Pride parade and recently sent a flogger to Nashville to help raise money to reopen their kink community center — CPI/The Mark

There’s a world of hurt AND healing in your hands, fingers and elbows…chances are you already lean on, poke & drum on your partner(s), so why not learn to finesse your massage skills?

sepiessa will discuss and demonstrate various massage techniques and how they affect the physical body as well as stimulate and soothe the nervous system. Stimulation is good and it’s not just the receiver who benefits! Learning to deliver a wide range of sensation from soft and sensuous to hurts-so-good is the focus of this class. Expect to hear erotic moans & groans, giggling and sighs! Learn the untold secrets of a kinky Licensed Massage Therapist!

 

sepiessa will supply hypo-allergenic oil (fractionated coconut oil)

 

Comfortable casual clothing is recommended and may come in contact with washable massage oil, but some fabrics may be stainable. Dress accordingly.

Nudity is likely but not required.

Consent and courtesy will be required.

By attending you consent to be in a room with others in various stages of undress, including full nudity.

Happy Endings are NOT a feature of this class. Some techniques will be shown which are sensual in nature but we will not be demonstrating or practicing to completion.

This is a hands-on class

 

~Be Prepared~

You are welcome to bring your massage table if you’ve got one (be sure it is rated to hold 2 people)

We may have extra massage tables available. If you do not have a table you can bring a yoga mat.

You will each need to bring a towel or two

Please be freshly showered prior to arriving.

Please no cologne or perfume, no smoking before or during

 

sepiessa is a skilled bodyworker with over 10 years of training and experience in Swedish and Deep Tissue massage as well as Thai Massage. She leads Naked Yoga at various local cons and loves to share her knowledge with her kinky peers. She has a flourishing private massage and yoga practice in Massachusetts.