Do you have a desire to improve how to process pain to enjoy that scene even more or enjoy it longer? Do you want to be able to adjust to different types of play, toys, and tops? Within my own growth as a masochist, I have collected a series of tips and techniques that have helped me process more pain, enjoy longer scenes, and adjust to different types of play. Through this class I will share what I found and how I use these tips to increase my pleasure. It may not make a masochist out of you, but it’s just might be a step in the right direction.
Hi, I am DrPhenix, reborn out of the ashes of hell with tears that have the power to heal. They say talk about not only what you know, but what you are passionate about. I have been in the BDSM lifestyle for Nearly 15 years both in private and in the public community. I am passionate about this community and doing what I can to educate and support those that feel comfortable or want to explore the s-side of the slash. I enjoy talking and educating others in areas that I am passionate about including bottoming as a masochist, submission, and bootblacking. Over the last couple years, I have really grown in the lifestyle. I have attended conferences, discussions, and helped support s-types through discussions and support meetings. This expanded my passions to include educating and supporting the larger BDSM community.
NEDS as an organization, supports the Black Lives Matter movement.
The NEDS board wanted to put together a few things in a statement, first and foremost. We would like to apologize for not issuing a statement earlier, we should have spoken up as soon the terrible tragedy with George Floyd and the countless other people of color at the hands of police and systemic racism which has been rampant in our country for far too long. We understand that by not making a statement, by staying silent we have been complacent. This behavior needs to change and we need to be better. We do not want to make excuses in this, only a promise to be better in the future.
As part of this, we are rededicating to outreach to POC and LGBTQ+ groups and organizations to see what help we can provide. We are committed to making our space and our organization more accepting and inclusive. This is a struggle for many organizations and we need to be better.
Next, happy Pride! This month is the celebration of pride and this year is perhaps more important than prior years as our country and the world is going through a global pandemic and human rights crisis of systemic racism. We want to remember what happened at Stonewall (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stonewall_riots) and remember that violence against Gay and Trans people are still disproportionately high.
The board also recognizes, except for announcing cancelling of classes, we have been silent for too long during this pandemic. At this time we do not believe it is safe or responsible to pull together large groups of people for a class in a physical setting. When we went into this, many experts said a few weeks to a month of social distancing, so we believed one or maybe two months of cancelled classes. Obviously, this information was incorrect. As such we are going to start exploring online classes hosted by NEDS to bring in discussions from presenters who have offered their services. Please look for upcoming announcements.
This March, instead of a class, we’re holding a munch! … after our annual business meeting,
After the meeting, we’ll descend upon the hotel’s bar/restaurant for the munch.
If you can’t make it, would you please, PLEASE visit here to fill out your proxy form? It’s quick, it makes the board’s life easier, and will keep us from having to bug you at every meeting, in case we don’t get a quorum.
What are we voting on? We need to fill one of our Service Board positions. The term is two years. The esteemed Stephan (aka Akuda) is the incumbent, and the nominating committee has invited him to run for another term, in honor of his outstanding service.
Railen, the nominating committee chair, would like to thank MsD4u2srv, MistressThorne, Doc850, and BobthePlumber, for their participation.
Again, if you are a NEDS member in good standing, and are unable to attend the annual meeting in person, please take just a moment to submit a proxy ballot to record your vote!
*****Please note this event will be held at Embassy Suites, 550 Winter St, Waltham, MA
This will be a costume party with prizes for different categories. So, dress to impress in your strangest, funniest, or kinkiest outfit. Or just come as you are. You never know what may win a prize. There are lockers for changing, bring your own lock. NEDS is not responsible for missing or stolen property, please do not leave valuables in your car. As always this is an alcohol-free event, but the bar will be open to serve soft drinks. Please remember to tip the bartender. Entry fees paid for NEDS events are non-refundable and non- transferable. Ticket sales are open to all and sales will close the Tuesday before the event at midnight.
It’s that time of the year!! Time for the NEDS Auction!!!!
Have you ever had a fantasy of being won by the highest bidder? Are you a submissive who has wanted to belong to someone for an evening after being auctioned off the block? Are you a Top that has an amazing skill that you love to exhibit on a bottom? Want to practice this in an open and safe environment with like minded individuals? Now is your chance! NEDS is hosting a Service and Silent Auction as a fundraiser to raise money for the charities chosen AND gives you a chance to get your kink on while giving back to the community. That’s a win win for everyone!
If you’re interested in going up for auction it doesn’t matter how you identify, it’s open to anyone who wishes to go up! If bidding for someone’s time for a scene doesn’t interest you, how about bidding on a handmade crafted kinky item,sexy toy or a piece of art? The community has generously donated items in the past and we will be posting the businesses who have donated very soon!
What is ritual, and what is its purpose? How can we use ritual to enhance our experience of kink? From fetish outfits, to setup and cleanup routines, to complex D/s protocol, kink is full of ritual language. Let’s look at rituals both sacred and secular, and explore how actions can speak louder than words.
Thista Minai is an author, priestess, ordeal facilitator, and gleeful sadist. Benefiting from a professional background in education, Thista teaches classes on a wide variety of topics, including sacred sexuality, the ordeal path, catharsis, impact, and needle play. With more than fifteen years of experience in designing and conducting rituals, Thista travels the country championing the value of spirituality and empowerment in kink and BDSM.
This will be a costume party with prizes for different categories. So, dress to impress in your strangest, funniest, or kinkiest outfit. Or just come as you are.
You never know what may win a prize.
There are lockers for changing, bring your own lock. NEDS is not responsible for missing or stolen property, please do not leave valuables in your car.
As always this is an alcohol-free event, but the bar will be open to serve soft drinks. Please remember to tip the bartender.
Entry fees paid for NEDS events are non-refundable and non- transferable. Ticket sales are open to all and sales will close the Tuesday before the event at midnight. https://ssl.ne-ds.org/events/278371260
Would you like to cause intense pain with a single finger? Interested in watching someone squirm with uncomfortable anticipation? Looking for the next thing to make them twitch with just the stroke of a knuckle?
Come learn some of the most unexpectedly sinister ways to poke, prod, and torture various parts of the body using your fingers, knuckles, nails and a variety of small toys. Just when they thought it was safe because you put the whip down…
River and Adeline are a polyamorous, pansexual, switchy duo with a passion for education, preparation, and all sorts of deviant delights ranging from fire to medical play to impact and more. Adeline is a gender fluid Eagle scout and self-proclaimed princess of dad jokes who has been teaching kink since college. River is a medical person turned techie who adores constantly iterating on classes to continuously find more effective ways to communicate and who excels at surviving Adeline’s puns. River has been teaching emergency response classes since 2012 and teaching kink classes with Adeline for the last 3 years. Classes with River and Adeline are an opportunity to learn new skills, delve into new ideas, and enjoy yourself while doing so.
NOTE: There will be time to discuss issues that NCSF is working on and the Programs they offer. This is an opportunity to understand the issues that the BDSM/Kink community are facing. “We will discuss the current state of the law in Massachusetts and nationally, as well as NCSF efforts to change it.”
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) Consent Counts program is designed to assist our communities in promoting a culture of consent through education and providing resources on how to deal with nonconsensual incidents. Join us for this interactive and informative discussion geared for people who…
• host a munch or rope group • produce cons or other events • volunteer at cons or other events • host play parties in your home or elsewhere • hold a leadership position in a kink organization
What We’ll Cover:
• Liability concerns for groups and events from criminal and civil perspectives • Trauma, including • various ways people react (some might surprise you) • the “do’s and don’ts” of what to say and • the best ways to be supportive. • Dealing with consent incidents – from developing a consent policy to handling sanctions when it’s violated.
Who Should Attend:
Everyone, actually. Certainly, anyone who falls into the categories listed above will benefit from the information in this discussion. However, understanding these components is of equal value when evaluating personal risk tolerance as an attendee.
Getting started as a hypnotist can be daunting. There are so many things to learn: inductions, deepeners, suggestion techniques, safety tips, negotiation skills, etc. Where do you start? In this class, Wiseguy helps to demystify the process of developing your hypnotic skills and style. Learn the things you need to know right away so you can build your confidence and have fun while you continue to add skills and techniques to your hypnotic tool kit.
The unofficial dean of erotic hypnosis education, Mark Wiseman (Wiseguy) brings his brand of humor and fun into classes that teach anyone how to use erotic hypnosis in a way that is safe, ethical, responsible, and hot. He is also the author of the books Mind Play: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis and The Mind Play Study Guide, the first hypnosis books written expressly for the kink community. In mundane life Wiseguy is a professional hypnotist, a teacher of professional hypnotists, and an avid woodworker.